A fling marriage begins when two people make time together their No. 1 priority.If we ho

pe to find love, we must first find time for loving. Unfortunately, current psychology rests on the model of the independent ego. To make a lasting marriage we have to overcome self-centeredness. We must go beyond what psychologist Abraham Maslow called "elf- actualization" to "us-actualization". We have to learn to put time where love is. The lasting marriage is never sure of the separate "selves" that make it up. But it has complete confidence that the relationship will grow in a never- ending process of learning There is a powerful healing energy that emanates from loving. Lasting love can learn to sense it, send it and make it grow. We are energized by love if we put our energy into loving.（英译中）